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Judy's Child Loss 4 Moms Support Group
~Page 3~





Judy's Daughter, Ashleigh

January 23, 1984 - October 20, 1996

Visit Ashleigh's Website



Ashleigh - 1989



Virginia Rest Stop on the way home
from Myrtle Beach, SC - 1994



Ashleigh wrote the following about her favorite person
when she was in 4th grade:

~My Key Person in My Life~

My key person is my mom
I guess because she's my mother.
Her name's Judy Bruner,
she works at Dental Health and Care.
Sometimes we do things together like going out to eat
or like when we went to the Blueberry Festival
or sometimes we set on the porch at night
and just watch people.
My mom is really cool, she's beautiful,
she's funny, she's nice, she's caring,
and well I guess she's just plain old wonderful,
I want to be just like her when I grow up.
I LOVE YOU!
Love
Ashleigh N. Bruner



This page is dedicated to all the mothers whose hearts are now forever broken by the loss of their precious children.

And in memory of my dear friend Aubrey. April 28, 2001.

I first met Aubrey in April of 2001. She had recently joined my group after the loss of her 18 month old daughter, Becky, just one month earlier. Because her grief was so raw, it was difficult for some members to have to experience her pain when they were in such pain themselves. Her intense grief was tearing her apart and it broke all of our already tender hearts as well. We would talk and share and cry together, she like all of us was so unhappy without her little girl. I only knew Aubrey for a very short time, but somehow it seemed longer. I gained alot from knowing her.

I then received an e-mail from a woman who said she was Aubrey's mother, writing to inform me that Aubrey and her husband Michael had been killed in a car accident. I was stunned and terribly saddened. When I had to break the news to the rest of the group it was very hard...another loss to deal with, more pain.

In her e-mail, her mother had thanked me for the comfort my group had offered to her daughter, and she then told me a story of she and Aubrey out shopping one day. The song "I hope You Dance" came on the radio, and Aubrey told her mother that the song reminded her of "all the gals in her group".

After I learned the news of Aubrey's death, I felt even more of a connection with her and I could not get her off my mind. Thinking about her and knowing that we both shared the love of the ocean I went to sleep that night and I had a dream....in it I saw Ashleigh with a group of children running along the beach and greeting a man and a woman, and bringing along with them a small girl. They were all so happy and excited!!

I woke up and knew that Aubrey's wish had come true, she had gone "home" with her husband, Michael and she was with her beloved daughter. She was on heaven's beach with my Ashleigh taking care of all of our children. Then the strangest thing of all happened, I recieved another e-mail from Aubrey's mother, in it she said that Aubrey's step-father had a dream the same night in which he heard the ocean and Becky laughing her bubbly little laugh and Aubrey's voice saying, "We're home now, Dad." He called the dream his "Amazing Grace". We both saw it as a sign from Aubrey and Ashleigh telling us that they were happy and on Heaven's Beach. It's so amazing it must be true.







Our Angel Member: Aubrey's Daughter Becky








~I Hope You Dance by LeeAnn Womack~

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
And God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
And if you get the chance to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance, I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
And never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances but they're worth taking
Loving might be a mistake but it's worth making
Don't let some hurtful heart leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out, reconsider
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance, I hope you dance
I hope you dance, I hope you dance

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens
promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
Dance, I hope you dance
I hope you dance, I hope you dance.



You're Listening to "I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack

This song reminded Aubrey of "The Ladies in Her Group".
Aubrey, we think of you often and know that you're watching over all of our children on Heaven's Beach.